Tuesday, July 19, 2011

What's My Tone?

"Little ones graze on our emotions. They feed on the tone we set, the emotional climate we create. They pick up on the ways in which we are nervous and hypervigilant about their safety, and it makes them nervous; so these feelings cycle. American journalist Ellen Goodman said something that I find both moving and elemental. I carry a tattered copy of it in my wallet: 'The central struggle of parenthood is to let our hopes for our children outweigh our fears.'"

Kim John Payne, Simplicity Parenting


Wednesday, July 13, 2011


H: Mommy, can Sissy drink moo moo milk?

M: No, it hurts her belly. What kind of milk does Sissy drink?

H: She drinks Sissy milk (i.e. soy milk)

M: You're right. What kind of milk does Mommy drink?

H: Rice milk!

M: What kind of milk does Daddy drink?

H: Um...iced tea.


Monday, July 11, 2011

Redeeming the Lemon

Little H spent the day recovering from a fever bug that she had over the weekend. While mild on all accounts, it left her pretty drained. That said, today she spent part of her time doing normal sorts of things like walking around the loft with an old phone bill folded up proclaiming that it was her Bible. At other moments however, she would spontaneous erupt into tears and plead for three things - her binkies, her baby bear and her bed. I complied, so throughout this longer than usual Monday, we teetered between these two extremes knowing that home was the best place to be.

Meanwhile, the eight year-old and I came up with things to occupy our time while the little one lounged in her crib. We read several chapters of The Pinderwicks on our front lawn - great summer read for girls and boys alike. Then we drew on the adage of turning lemons into lemonade and quite literally turned the latter into an afternoon treat*If you feel inspired to take this on, we found that it takes twice as long (at least in our freezer) to freeze each layer (think all day project). Also, I cut the sugar in half for the simple syrup and used Elderberry juice for the purple layer. Have fun!


Sunday, July 10, 2011

Dear Homegroup

"That grief should come and bring joy with it was not something I felt able, or even called upon, to sort out or understand. I accepted the grief. I accepted the joy. I accepted that they came to me out o f the same world."
–Wendell Berry

And so it was with you homegroup. I can recall so clearly the first night I came. With an impending move to Santa Barbara, we’d caught wind of this gathering. Annie – the always includer in my life – assured Phil and I that the Wilsons and the Careys were both great couples and she knew we’d fit in...